Last week I told you about word of the year for 2015, and how our word tends to find us as we reflect on where we have been and what we need going forward. Today the fabulous Lauryn Blakesly of The Vintage Mom, shares her thoughts about starting a new year by reflecting on the one that has just past. Here are Lauryn’s timely and very poignant words:
As we approach the juncture where 2014 comes to a close, making way for 2015, I realize that much of my year has been been filled with reflection.
Every once in a while you have one of those years. A year packed with so much change and adventure that you can only keep moving. The kind with little time for actually “doing” the extra things, but many fleeting moments for “thinking”. 2014 was just that kind of year for me. While I missed some of those extra things I wanted to do, wished I got more done, and hoped that next year would be more calm, I feel like this year has taught me more than many years past.
This year of many changes has taught me that I too have changed. Not quickly. These changes have been happening gradually over the years, but as I looked back on the person that I have become and the person that I strive to be, I realize just how important these changes and reflecting on them has been. I realize that I could not be happier with the track that I am on. I am empowered by the woman I have become thus far, and find strength and energy in seeing clearly the woman that I am striving to be.
Many thoughts and realizations that I have had this year, I am sure that my friends that know me could have told me years ago. They are blatantly obvious to the outsider, but at the end of the day, it is the insider that needs to make a change. My mind traveled at warp speed this year. I stressed, and because of that, I didn’t enjoy nearly as much as I would have liked. Some of these stresses were not ones that I could control, but admittedly, many of these stresses were self imposed. In 2015 priority is going to be a word that I will think about often. My husband would chuckle at this last sentence as he is king of priorities and has been attempting to coach me for years. I would argue that EVERYTHING is a priority. He would say that if EVERYTHING is a priority, NOTHING is a priority. But as the kids grow all too quickly and as the number of obligations that we set up for ourselves become overwhelming, it is now that I begin to understand the importance of the word priority.
I am also very thankful this year. A friend and I had a quick conversation one evening toward the end of December. We were chatting about an action that someone took that I was frustrated about (imagine that!). Her response to the thought that someone would choose to do things differently that me was, “that’s what makes the world go round.” It is a phrase that has not left my head since. I am thankful for everyone in my life, because each and every person in this world’s contribution to our society and our world is important. No matter how much I don’t understand their motives or actions. We are all here for different reasons. In 2015 I will strive to find the best in everyone and teach my children the same, because that wise friend couldn’t be more right: That IS what makes the world go round. One person’s frustration could be another person’s joy.
Another thing I have found that I take great joy in is conversation. In 2015 I want to have more conversations. I want to learn more about those around me. I want to be more engaging. To be more willing to get to know someone in the room that my slight tendency toward introversion may may not have allowed me to before. I want to hear, really hear, more about my children, my family, and everyone that surrounds us. Not just waiting for my turn to talk, but to soak up the things people are saying. Stories can live for ever, and I want to hear and create more stories.
So, 2015 will not be filled with resolutions for me. It will not be filled with goals (though small ones will be made throughout the year, I am sure). What it will be filled with are actions that put me closer to the person I want to be. I want to think about who I am, where I am going, and what I look like in my dreams on the other end. I want to keep reflecting.
Where are you in your journey to who you want to be? When you think about who you are, are you moving in the right direction?