You know when you chat with someone for the first time but it feels so comfortable that it almost seems as if you have known him or her for years? That person with whom you can have one of those conversations that makes you feel just a little bit more alive?
That just happened.
I just spoke with Karen Noe, a renowned psychic medium, spiritual counselor, healer, and author of Your Life After Their Death: A Medium’s Guide to Healing After a Loss. Her book is a guide for coping with the loss of a loved one, and how you can keep the memory of your loved ones alive and heal your own life after their death.
Whether you are a believer in the work of a medium or not, loss is loss – and grief is grief. Karen and I chatted for a bit about coping with the loss of a loved one, particularly during the holiday season. The holidays can be a bittersweet time when the loss of loved ones runs deep, especially when that person has recently passed. Here are Karen’s tips for those who are grieving during the holidays.
Be honest about your feelings. Grief happens differently for everyone. Take as long as you need to feel the grief, but try to move negative energy out. Though you can’t change what happened, you can manage how you cope with it.
Practice healing techniques. In her book, Karen talks about a series of tapping techniques known as EFT, in which we can move negative energy in our bodies by tapping on our acupuncture points. Tapping can help us to release tension and help calm our minds.
Ask for a sign. Karen says that our loved ones are all around us and they want to communicate with us. Sometimes, though, they just need to be reminded to send a sign.
Be open to the signs around you. They could be communicating with you in various ways, such as showing you a specific number, suddenly smelling the scent of their favorite fragrance, flickering the lights, changing the channel on the radio, or even in the form of a bird or butterfly surrounding you. Know that just because you cannot see them, it doesn’t mean they have lost their personality or witty sense of humor!
With that said, however, look for “without a doubt” signs. Especially if you are speaking with a medium or not a natural believer in signs. Seek clear messages such as those that nobody else would know. Details that would be unfamiliar to others.
Know that it’s alright to be happy. As she says, “Your deceased loved ones are okay and want you to be too.” Sometimes they will come through to let you know that they are okay so that you can move forward too.
If you are having trouble moving past grief during the holidays, do something to pamper yourself and lift your spirits. Focus on something other than the loss. It does not mean that you are severing ties with them. Actually, it can be quite the opposite. Karen says it is easier to communicate with passed loved ones when you are feeling happy.
Maintain your connection to your loved ones. Do something to keep their memory alive. Honor them in some way, whether it is by placing an ornament on the tree, honoring a family tradition, or by giving to their favorite charity. Talk to them. Write letters to them. They really do receive these messages.
And remember, you can always continue love them no matter what the time of year, or whether they are by your side in body or in spirit.
Karen Noe is Karen Noe is a renowned psychic medium, spiritual counselor, and healer. She is the author of Your Life After Their Death: A Medium’s Guide to Healing After a Loss. Karen is the founder of the Angel Quest Center in Ramsey, New Jersey, where she teaches classes, gives readings, and practices alternative healing. You can listen to Karen on The Angel Quest Radio Show by tuning to http://www.wrcr.com on the first Saturday of every month at 1:05pm Eastern time. Learn more at http://www.KarenNoe.com/.