Last week I received a letter from a reader in response to all of the hype and negativity that has been created over the so-called Mommy Wars. While she has asked to remain anonymous, she has agreed to let me post her words. In my opinion, they are just too good not to post. Take a read:
I am sick and tired of reading articles that attempt to answer the question “Are you a good mom if you work or if you stay home?”
It seems like every day another mom — whether CEO, soccer mom or both — decides that her view on this topic is worthy of being told to the world. Inevitably her article, blog, book excerpt, face book post or tweet, flies around cyberspace and into the personal or work email inboxes of women across the world.
Shouldn’t our collective response to this intrusion simply be “Delete”?
Why? Because these articles (and the incessant media hype over this issue) do nothing more than create a divide between women that need not exist. They pit woman against woman on the basis of one factor and one factor alone. Don’t we teach our children not to judge this way in kindergarten?
To presume that whether or not a woman works outside the home defines her as a mother is nothing less than insulting. It devalues mothers and the myriad factors that make up who we are. And to read and forward these articles only perpetuates gender stereotypes that really should be long gone.
We mothers should be choosing to support one another; whether or not our choices — or realities — are the same. Aren’t our lives, whatever we do with them, difficult enough? Let’s give each other a break. I am certain we could all use one.
And with the extra time we will have saved from reading all of these articles, let’s each give another mom a hug.
So what do you think? Shouldn’t we give each other a break, once and for all?