Today I have a beautiful guest post which highlights the importance of loving yourself. It is so easy to measure ourselves to others. “She is the perfect mom. She never gets frustrated, always looks great, her house is immaculate and she always has a gourmet meal on the table.” “She rose to the top of her firm in record time.” “How does she have that many followers?” “Look at their new house, new car, overachieving children.” Though we truly have to make an effort to put on our blinders, we also know that sometimes it is easier said than done. So today I hope you will consider the following:
Do not take yourself for granted.
An African-American proverb goes like this: Nobody will think you’re something if you don’t think so yourself. This paves the way for a deeper thought, and a graver malady that much of mankind suffers from. We all have a strong need to be loved and accepted by others for what we are. But irrespective of whether we receive what we truly deserve, from others, can we not adore ourselves just the way we are? It not only works better, but it also make sure that we are sufficiently in love with our own selves, because we are worth it. All of us are, in our own ways. And that does not come in the way of our loving others. Rather, if our own value depreciates in our eyes, and we come to take ourselves for granted, we consequently begin to lose the beauty that life has to offer.
You are a manifestation of excellence. Stand in front of the mirror. Do you not like what you see? And yes, this does not simply mean looking at your external features alone. It is much beyond that. You’re beautiful in your unique way. There is no other ‘you’ in this world. Cherish this fact, take pride in your individuality. Believe in what you are, and celebrate every bit of yourself. That way, life itself shall hold out an all-new meaning for you. How many times do we underestimate ourselves or worse still, think that even if we have done something well, it isn’t much praiseworthy after all? Isn’t it a sin committed against our inner selves? Day after day, our identity, our souls are getting eroded because we are taking ourselves for granted. Liking oneself gives one power and strength. Each one of us is special, and this must never be forgotten. Yes, with all our shortcomings, flaws, follies, oddities, eccentricities, frailties etc., it is our overall being that emerges triumphant against the ups and downs of life.
“Oh, I got 90 marks out of 100 in Mathematics today! But why should I revel in that? There are 4 other students who got the same marks, and a few others who got even higher…” “My classmate exclaimed that I was looking pretty in that dress… But she probably said that just to please me…. she might not have meant it after all… there are so many other good-looking girls in the class…” this kind of self-negating attitude reflects poor confidence and over-reliance on others’ evaluation about you. How long can you go on thriving on how others perceive you? You have to like and respect yourself first. Even people around you will shower you with the right kind of attention if they realize that you know your worth. Let go of the need to constantly depend on others’ inputs about you, and replace it with focusing on validating and liking yourself first. That way, you’ll be at your best self. You won’t have to don any kind of mask with the people around you just to please them or get them to like you.
Do things that you like, and enjoy them to the core. Give a pat to yourself when you meet your deadlines or attain little goals. Take charge of your life. Be positive ad open. Dare to step out of your comfort zone and face your fears. Take good care of yourself- physically, emotionally, and spiritually. When you do the right things and give yourself the due credit for them, the self-sabotage withers away. The conviction that you exude overflows to the world around you. Do not be judgmental upon yourself. Make a note of all the positive qualities you possess and the good things that you have done or accomplished so far. Learn to take the failures or faults in your stride. Turn them into successes and strengths. You have to be the first to recognize the good in you for the world to wake up to it.
Put an end to taking yourself for granted and let this end be a beginning of a new you.
This guest post contribution comes from www.glad2bawoman.com, an online media company for women with over 77,000 members. The articles on their site encompass various topics around health, empowerment, relationships and fashion.