This week I had one of those and it astounded me. The last few days have been rather stressful. I’m a pretty tough cookie and handle stress fairly well, yet in that moment I learned something new about myself that I hadn’t realized before.
In an effort to describe this feeling to a friend I called it an actual self realization. Then later on I looked up that term to see if it existed. Lo and behold, according to Wikipedia the Merriam Webster’s dictionary self realization is fulfillment by oneself of the possibilities of one’s character or personality. Bingo. I also learned that Abraham Maslow put self actualization at the top of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. Who knew? (Well, anyone who has studied Maslow does, which is obviously not me.)
What is self actualization? Apparently a self actualizer is living creatively and fully using his or her potentials. He or she is a person who is perceptive, accepting of themselves and others, independent and has a keen sense of humor. A self actualizer is task focused yet spontaneous and has deep connections with others yet is comfortable being along. (Spot on.) Most importantly, at least this week, is that they have occurrences of self actualization that brought up feelings of relief, elation, peace and strength.
Hey, at least I’m at the top of some hierarchy. Way to go, Abraham Maslow. When someone asks about me going forward I’m not quite sure that I’ll respond with, “Well, I’m self actualized” but it’s a pretty neat term, don’t you think?
Whether it’s self realization, self actualization or a lightbulb, have you ever had a moment of truth when you suddenly learned something about yourself that you hadn’t known before?