On the heels of this week’s hoopla about the now infamous Time magazine article, there has been a lot of talk about the various choices women make as mothers. Motherhood is not about whether we co-parent or not, whether we breastfeed or not, whether we work full time or not. Motherhood is about giving it our all and loving with all of our hearts. Motherhood is about being there while:
…. an embryo becomes a fetus, growing inside your womb until it is ready to see the world.
…. a fetus becomes a newborn; with sleepless nights, poopie diapers and late night phone calls to the pediatrician, as well as first smiles, first laughs and first steps.
…. a newborn becomes a toddler; excited to explore the world, right after a tantrum (or three).
…. a toddler becomes a preschooler; learning to listen, share and play nicely with others.
…. a preschooler becomes a big kid; getting on the school bus without you for the very first time, eager for independence yet still needing your reassurance.
…. a kid becomes a pre-teen; with all of the gossip, best friends, acne and crushes that a mom’s heart can handle.
…. a pre-teen becomes a teenager; with real relationships, serious studying, senior proms and the keys to the car.
…. a teenager becomes a college student, heading out into the world on his or her own, making choices and decisions that you can only hope are the right ones.
….. a college student becomes a full fledged adult, who does not need mom anymore but hopefully still wants her around from time to time.
Knowing all the while that somewhere along the line we played a role in that evolutionary process. That we did our best to carve the path, teaching right from wrong and providing the lessons needed to live a happy and fulfilling life. That is what it means to be mom enough.
Happy Mother’s Day!