What’s With All the Haters?

“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” -Dr. Seuss

Since June I have heard multiple stories from bloggers regarding haters in the blogging community. Just to be clear, I am not talking about mild disagreements or people who just don’t click.  I am talking about vicious comments on blogs and Twitter, bullying, threats and sabotage.  That’s not even mentioning the entire sites devoted to hating certain bloggers.

Prior to becoming a blogger I worked at a media company which has competing entities under its umbrella.  Competitors working in the same building.  Yet, the tension there was not nearly as thick as some of what is happening lately in the blogosphere.

I don’t get it.  What’s with all the haters in the blogosphere?  Why can’t we all just get along?  Seriously, folks.  Aren’t there better ways to spend one’s time than spewing hatred on Twitter?  Shouldn’t we instead be celebrating one another’s success?

When I first started in blogging I was the subject of some rumors and whispers behind my back.  While I didn’t want to let it bother me, it really did.  Friends told me not to waste my energy on it but we all know that it’s so much easier to say that than to do it.  Finally, after months of hurt feelings and anger I was able to let myself ignore it and just move on.  Fortunately at about that same time, those who had bought into the hype began to recognize the real situation (and my experience is small potatoes compared to what some of these other bloggers are dealing with lately).  I have found great friends and supporters through this sphere, some who I know only through Twitter and others who I now call friends ‘in real life.’

There is enough room here for everyone to have success.  Differing opinions are not just allowed, they are welcome.  That’s what sparks interesting conversation and friendly debate.  However, as the saying goes, when we start to attack the messenger rather than the message we have lost the meaning of the debate.

Those who are the subject of hatred did not ask to be placed in that role and all of it, albeit deflating, is not ultimately going to change a thing.  For the most part, those who are the subject of the hatred are in that position because they are successful.  These attempts at bringing them down are not going to work and may even help to boost their success.  So why bother?  What are the haters going to prove, anyway?

Let’s face it.  These haters are not going to disappear any time soon.  I guess it’s up to those of us on the outside to either ignore the nonsense or, at the very least, give it due diligence before drawing any conclusions.

And so I ask again.  Can’t we all just get along?

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