“When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.” ~Sophia Loren in Women and Beauty
I am honored to have Heather Von St. James, a five year survivor of mesothelioma, as the first guest on Look Who Found the Marbles. Here is a story of how a mother’s love for her child got her through the most difficult of times:
A Mother’s Battle with Mesothelioma
Mesothelioma is a rare cancer from asbestos exposure that affects millions of people worldwide every year. Unfortunately this includes mothers as well. The sad truth is that mothers should be the last type of person to be diagnosed with a terminal illness like mesothelioma. Their fight to survive is not solely for themselves but for their children as well.
Unfortunately, mesothelioma life expectancy is typically around four to eight months; however this number fluctuates with every case. In my case, I survived! I have been mesothelioma free for 5 years now. Sadly, not all mothers are that lucky and this is not something anyone, especially mothers, want to hear.
Along with taking care of their children after being diagnosed with a cancer like mesothelioma there are other issues that arise such as stress and anxiety. Balancing life is sure to become much more difficult than before; therefore the importance of relatives and close friends play an important role during this difficult time. Mothers with mesothelioma face an impending death, all the while trying to stay strong for their children.
However, there is hope. Though mesothelioma life expectancy is very short, many mothers emerge from their condition victorious. Perhaps their strong desire to live for their children is a main factor for their survival. I know that was a major reason why I survived. Many studies have shown that certain mindsets actually help a person’s battle with even the most severe cancers. Positivity, relaxation and a strong will are all things that can significantly increase a cancer patient’s chance of survival.
Some of the strongest women I have seen continue on with their daily lives, even after being diagnosed with mesothelioma. Sure, they know how serious their condition is but they won’t allow that to interrupt their normal routine. Perhaps it is because they don’t want their families to fear any negative outcome and staying positive is one way to ensure that they don’t fear.
Mothers are some of the strongest people in this world. Though the reason is complex, their love and determination are usually the two things that pull us through very tough times. For many women including myself, our children have become the reasons we completely change our lives. Instantly, a woman’s life stops being about her and more about her children. Because of our children, we have more reasons to live and we won’t allow even cancer to stop us from raising our kids.
For more information on mesothelioma, go to: www.mesothelioma.com.
The author of this article is Jackie Clark, assistant to Heather Von St. James. Heather Von St. James offers a message of courage, inspiration and hope to those diagnosed with mesothelioma cancer. You can hear Heather in her own words at: http://www.mesothelioma.com/lawyer/client-profiles/heather-von-st-james.htm.